August 05, 2016

Tips For Creating Your Adoption Profile

Are you getting ready to make your adoption profile?

Getting started can be a challenge. Here are some tips for creating a unique profile that truly communicates to a potential birth mother who you are, and why you’re the best fit for their child.

Speak like yourself! Have you ever watched The Bachelor? If so, have you ever noticed that every single one of the cast members speaks in meaningless clichés? They talk about their “journey,” they talk about “falling in love,” they talk about their “connection” — but very rarely do they offer anything insightful, or a glimpse into their authentic selves. Clichés don’t mean anything, so they have no place in your profile. Speak from your heart, write how you talk, give the reader a true sense of who you are and how you communicate. Allowing a birth mother to experience your true personality will go miles beyond empty words that have been said time and time again.

Pictures matter. Photos are absolutely essential to a successful adoption profile, so think about this when you’re selecting photos you want to include. Make your chosen photos fully visualize you (note: selfies don’t always work.) Make sure they depict a wide range of activities and moments — choose photos of your and your partner enjoying specific activities and ones that showcase your life and how you lead it. This is your potential birth mother’s first opportunity to see you and make a connection, so think about the impression you want to make. What would inspire you to connect with someone you’ve never met?

What are your dreams as a parent? How do you intend to parent this child? What sorts of ideals and experiences are important to you? What have you always dreamed of doing, teaching, and sharing with your child? Your adoption profile is not about making your parental goals sound perfect, it’s about ensuring your goals and parenting ideals communicate who you intend to be as a parent. The right birth mother for you will connect with your ideals as well, and that’s what will make you a perfect match.

Hone in on the details. How did you and your partner meet? What were your childhoods like? Where did you grow up? What are your favorite weekend rituals? Rather than giving a baseline report of the things you like, really dive into the details that make you who you are and separate you from any other couple whose profile a birth mother may also be reading.

Above all…project your wonderful self! As long as you do that, you’re good to go. That’s what matters most.