May 07, 2019
How You Can Celebrate Birth Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day is a day to recognize and honor the extraordinary work it takes to be a mother. Being a birth mother is a part of that. Which is why every year, the Saturday before Mother’s Day is Birth Mother’s Day. If you do have an open relationship with your child’s birth mother, this is an opportunity for you to recognize the selfless and brave choice she made to place her child for adoption.
On Birth Mother’s Day we honor the fact that just because a woman is not raising her child, that doesn’t make her any less of a mother. Celebrating her on this day is a wonderful way to show your support, and understanding of her sacrifice.
If you do have an open adoption with your child’s birth mother, here are a few things you can do to make this day extra special:
- Share a video or phone call
- Send a handmade card
- Treat her with a gift, or flower arrangement
If your adoption is a closed adoption and you have limited information regarding your child’s birth mother, there are still ways to honor her and her place in your family. For one, make sure you always speak about her in a positive way. She is an indelible part of your child’s story, and recognizing that doesn’t make you any less of a mother. For adopted children, the experience can bring up feelings of rejection or confusion. Helping your child understand how much their birth mother loved them is a wonderful way to honor their place in this world, and how they came to be. You could also:
- Let your child write a letter to their birth mother, even if she may never see it
- Revisit or re-tell your child’s adoption story
- Plant a tree or flowers in honor of your child’s birth mother
Birth mothers are a vital part of your child’s history, and they often go unnoticed or overlooked. Consider taking a moment this Mother’s Day weekend to send light, positivity, and gratitude her way.
