March 21, 2021
Choosing the Right Adoptive Family for You
A birth mother’s ultimate goal in pursuing adoption is finding a loving and safe home for her child. With advancements in technology and adoption resources, you have more options than ever when looking for your perfect adoptive family match.
Every birth mother has personal beliefs and desires for her child. These inform what you are looking for in an adoptive family and what you hope they’ll be able to offer your child. While some birth mothers want to find an adoptive family close to them geographically, others would prefer their child to be raised with a sibling or that the adoptive family participates in a particular religion or education style. Before you begin meeting prospective adoptive families, you must take some time to think about what you want for your child and the values and lifestyle you want the adoptive family to have.
Here are some things to consider:
- Religion
- Professions
- Discipline styles
- Education
- Political beliefs
- Neighborhood
- Cultural interests
- Extracurricular activities
- Social life
- Parenting styles
- Siblings or extended family
- Ethnicity
- Living expenses
- Medical expenses
Consider what kind of life you want your child to grow up in, and the questions you can ask to assure that you and the adoptive parents are aligned on parenting styles and lifestyle choices. You don’t have to choose a family that does not feel right to you. This is your journey and your child, and it’s critical that you feel comfortable with all the decisions you have to make.
This is a time in your adoption journey when you could use support, and that’s what your adoption agency is there for. Give us a call, and let’s talk about how you can find birth mother support near you, as well as what you need to know to ensure you’re making the best decision for yourself and your child. We are always here to help.
