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Unplanned Pregnancy. What are my options?

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Button-Waiting-FamiliesAn unplanned pregnancy can bring up a lot of challenges and concerns for young women. Even if you’ve always wanted to be a mother, you didn’t expect to become pregnant right now, and it probably wasn’t part of your plans for the immediate future. You might be worried about how your life is going to change if you have a baby, and whether you can even afford to raise a child. And you might be trying to make a difficult decision about whether to keep the baby, give the baby up for adoption, or even have an abortion. As you’re thinking about your options, you should know that placing your baby with an adoptive family is an option that’s worth considering, and can even offer unplanned pregnancy help in ways that you didn’t expect. In fact, adoption can turn an unexpected pregnancy from something that’s full of uncertainty and fear into something very positive.

An unplanned pregnancy often makes young women feel like they have to put their lives on hold, but placing your baby with an adoptive family means that you’ll be able to keep building the life you want for yourself. Think carefully about the kind of future you want to have – do you want to get more education? Build a career and be successful in your field? Find a long-term partner, and get married? Having a child right now will make it more difficult to do all of these things. Are you willing to put aside some of your own hopes and dreams in order to raise a child right now? Will you be able to work long hours to pay for their food, clothing and healthcare? An unexpected pregnancy means that you need to think about all of these things realistically, not just hope that they’ll work themselves out.

Consider, for example, that the average cost of raising a child to adulthood is about $241,080, or roughly $13,393 a year – and this constantly on the rise. If you’re still trying to figure out how to support yourself, this can cause a huge amount of financial strain. And this doesn’t even include the cost of prenatal care and childbirth, which comes in at an average of $8,800. Aside from the financial cost, raising a child by yourself is very emotionally and physically stressful. Although many people find it incredibly rewarding to be parents, raising a child when you’re not ready is one of the hardest things you can do.

You should also think about the kind of life you want your child to have. Do you want them to have everything they need as they grow up, and know that they’ll always be provided for? Do you want them to be raised by parents who are always able to be there for them? Is it important for them to be able to go to the best schools, live in a good neighborhood, and do things like sports and music without worrying about the cost? You might not feel like you’re able to provide these things right now, and that’s okay – after all, you weren’t planning on becoming a parent yet. But there are many people who can provide this, and want to bring a child into their lives. If you choose adoption, you could help a family who isn’t able to have children on their own, but who desperately want to become parents. And you can know that your child is being raised by loving parents who can give them everything they need.

Choosing adoption also means you can get a lot of support that wouldn’t otherwise be available to you. Once you choose an adoptive family for your child, you can make them a part of your pregnancy (if you want to), so that you don’t have to feel like you’re going through it alone. You can even get many of your prenatal and living expenses taken care of, once you decide on adoptive parents for the baby. Adoption can mean that your unwanted pregnancy has the best possible outcome – both for you and the baby.