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Adoption for Same Sex Couples

There are many hurdles to overcome when considering adoption. If you are thinking of adopting a child, you will face background checks, strangers fishing through your finances, and quite literally…your home. And for same sex adoptions, those obstacles can be even more complicated.

However, despite all of the work it takes, adoption is such a wonderful opportunity…not only for you, but for a child who desperately needs a home and loving family. Achieving this level of unconditional and unmatched love makes everything you will go through worth it.Same Sex Adoption

For now though, let’s focus on aspects of adoption for gay couples.

Time to Research Same Sex Adoption Laws

Whether or not adoption is even legal for same sex couples will depend on where you live. In fact, for any adoption each state has their own laws for various areas of adoption, such as legal covered expenses, relinquishment, and even post-adoption issues that might arise such as adoption records and inheritance rights.  Our state-by-state adoption laws page will give you a better oversight of which states allow for same sex adoption.

As mentioned above, it can be complicated. So, it’s best to learn the laws, especially whether or not you will be able to adopt in your state. Currently, there are only 20 states that allow for gay adoption, which means 30 states do not. This could greatly affect any plans for an interstate adoption. So, it’s imperative that you know which states do…and do not support same sex adoption.

There is a possibility though that even in a state that doesn’t allow gay couples to adopt, that you could adopt as a single parent. Then again, know the laws of the state you wish to work with in adopting. At Abby’s One True Gift Adoptions, we will work with you to help you understand these laws.

Choosing an Adoption Agency

It is just as important to choose the right adoption agency, as it is to beef up your personal profile for potential biological mothers to view. A good and reputable agency will work in the best interest of everyone involved, not just the party who is paying them. Now, don’t misconstrue that to be representation though. If there is another agency involved, such as the biological parent’s agency, your agency will only be representing you. However, a good trait to look for is compassion for everyone involved, as the adoption process can be very emotional and difficult at times.

Even if your state allows for LGBT adoption, not all agencies will work with you if you are a same sex couple. However, it is becoming more prevalent though, as more and more biological mothers and fathers are open to the idea of same sex couples adopting their child. And, at One True Gift Adoptions, we work with all couples who are willing to provide a loving home for a child.

When you find a few agencies that will work with gay adoption, set up a consultation with each one to interview them. Trust me, your time will come when you are in the hot seat, but at this point, you really need to know who you are considering as an agent, to be working in your best interest…as well as your future child’s. Make a list of questions to ask before you even pick up the phone to call them, such as:

• Do you work with gay couples?
• What percentage of your birthmothers are open to gay adoption?
• Can you provide information on gay adoption laws?

You can probably come up with more, as well as a few on adoption in general. The idea is to be as informed about all aspects of adoption before you start the process. Visit sites that have authority on the matter, such your state’s website. And, please know some people will tell you what you want to hear, rather than what you should hear. So, arm yourself with as much knowledge as possible. It could save you a lot of heartache, stress, and money. Save that for later when the child is a teenager!

In Closing

You will find that you have far more options than gay couples did even just a few years ago and Abby’s One True Gift Adoptions will help you choose which one works for you. Just keep in mind…even though adoption in general takes a great deal of patience and knowledge, it will be well worth it when you are able to have the family you are hoping to have someday!