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Should I give my baby up for adoption?

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The thought of giving your baby up for adoption is a huge decision.  An unexpected pregnancy can cause much distress and heartache. Your life is quickly filled with fears for the future and the unknown. Family members can be very unsupportive and many mothers feel alone. Where do you go when nothing makes sense?  

Women put their babies up for adoption for many different reasons. While every situation is different, there are three common reasons why women choose adoption.

Reason Number One: Having a baby is just not the plan right now.

Babies often come unexpectedly. But, sometimes, your plans simply do not include a child. You may be in college, working full time, single or just not ready to raise a baby.

And, that’s ok. You have options. Choosing adoption can be the best thing for you and your baby. While you may not be ready to raise a child, there are waiting couples anxiously hoping for a birth mother to put her baby up for adoption. Adoption can be the greatest and most self-less gift you give your child.

Reason Number Two: Birthfather is MIA

While the father does have to agree to adoption, it is often the mother who initially makes the decision. It is the mother who carries the baby, grows to love him or her and, eventually, makes the choice to give her baby up for adoption.

Being pregnant without the support of a partner is hard. There is no one to share the emotional and financial burden of pregnancy. Reaching out to an adoption agency can help you. Adoption agencies are highly trained to counsel birth mothers and fully explain the adoption process.

Choosing adoption means you are not alone. Immediately, you have the emotional support of the adoption agency. Once you choose a family to place your baby with, you will have the support and encouragement of your adoptive couple.

There is even financial support available to help with the often overwhelming expenses of rent, food, prenatal care and other needs. With financial support from your adoptive family, you won’t have to worry about paying the bills when you are nine months pregnant.

Reason Number Three: Not ready to be someone’s mom.

Being a mother is a 24 hours, seven days a week job. There is no break. You are always on the clock with a tiny boss making demands every hour of the day. It’s totally understandable if you are not ready to jump into motherhood.

When you give your baby up for adoption, you can choose how involved you want to remain in your child’s life. There are open or closed adoptions. With closed adoptions you have no contact with the child and don’t know personal information about the adoptive parents. On the other hand, some birth mothers and adoptive families opt for open adoptions and keep in touch with letters and pictures on holidays and birthdays.

You are not alone. Pregnancy is hard, but adoption is a real option. Choosing to give your baby up for adoption is not an easy decision, but sometimes it is the best option for you and your child. When you put your baby up for adoption, doors open for both you and your baby.

Adoption is not the end. It is a new beginning.